The past year has tested us all in ways beyond belief. Roles shifted. Feelings of loneliness were amplified. And mothers and caregivers in particular, had to shoulder more of a burden than they bargained for.
“I’ve never felt more isolated,” says model, actress, and The Cool Mom Co. founder Lizzy Mathis. “Suddenly, you’re juggling becoming a teacher with being a parent, a wife, having a career, and you’re cooking and cleaning constantly—it’s overwhelming.”
One of Mathis’s closest mom confidantes, Dan’ee Doty, wholeheartedly agrees. “We talk about it all the time,” she says. “How easy it is for women to feel like they’re alone because of all the pressure.”
Salvation for these two women lies in having a solid mom tribe to fall back on. “It’s so important for us to see ourselves in others,” says Mathis. “Because being a mother is amazing, but it’s important to remember that you’re a woman, too. And everything that you loved before—food, fashion, me time—still needs to exist. And it’s okay for you to love that and love being a mom.”
With Mother’s Day around the corner, we caught up with the two to talk about lessons learned during lockdown, the stuff nobody tells you, and why sometimes the best mom hack is simply putting on pieces that make you feel good (oh hey, Coach) and cutting yourself some slack.
COACH JACKET, Coach, $495;
GOOP X MEJURI WOVEN HOOPS (worn throughout), goop, $115;
GOOP X MEJURI PAVÉ DIAMOND DÔME RING (worn throughout), goop, $550.
G. LABEL CARRIE CHUNKY-KNIT TOP, goop, $225;
JENNIFER FISHER X GOOP HOOPS (worn throughout), goop, $220;
NECKLACE, Mathis’s own.
You balance life and motherhood while always managing to look amazing and never scream at your kids—how do you make it look so easy?
You were honestly the first person in my life who became a mother, and you’ve been instrumental in walking me through the process. The juggle is real. But the silver lining is we’ll never have the opportunity to be in each other’s faces 24/7, bonding with our families like that, ever again.